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Your wedding vows are one of the best ways to personalize your wedding- to make it a one-of-a-kind wedding, that truly expresses who you both really are and your love for each other.

When you book a wedding ceremony with us, we will email you a wedding vow kit with a lovely variety of sample wedding vows and wedding poems.  Tweak them a bit and make them yours, or simply pick a wedding vow that is just right for you.  

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Vows may be:

  • read entirely by minister (all you need to do is to say is "I do!")

  • read phrase by phrase by minister and repeated by wedding partners

  • read entirely by wedding partners.

You can say the same vows to one another, or you can each say a different vow.

How to Write Your Wedding Vows:
A vow is a promise and should include such phrases as "I will, I promise, I pledge, I commit to."  Vows also indicate the permanency of marriage with a phrase such as "until death do us part,"  "as long as we both shall live," or "forever and always."

If what you really want to do is to express your feelings for one another, then another option is to write a declaration of love or pick a reading that puts your feelings into words for you.  In this case, we suggest picking a short, pre-written vow, and then either before or after your vows the minister can announce that you have prepared some special words to share with each other. This way you can speak from your hearts without a vow format.

Tips if you choose to write your own wedding vows:
  • Keep your wedding vows short and sweet.
  • Don't be afraid to express how you feel.
  • Let someone with good writing skills help you edit them.  (That's what we are here for.)
  • Be sure both the bride's vows and the groom's vows are similar in length and in flavor (for example, both sentimental or both playful.)
  • With our wedding vow kit, you can simply pick the marriage vows that fit you, or piece together bits of different vows that make you think "Yes!  That's exactly what I want to say!"
  • If you can't express your feelings in your own words, just pick a beautiful sample wedding vow that speaks to your heart.
  • If either one if you is uncomfortable writing an original vow or speaking in public, then just choose from our huge collection of sample vows. Not every one is good at putting their feelings into words, and even experienced public speakers get nervous on their wedding day!  Thousands of romantic writers have gone before you, and you can borrow their words.  Do what feels right for you.  You both want to enjoy your special day!


Sample Non-Traditional Wedding Vows:

1.     I promise to give you the best of myself and ask of you no more than I can give.
I promise to respect you as your own person and to realize that your interests, desires and needs are no less important than my own.
I promise to share with you my time and attention and to bring you joy, strength and imagination to our relationship.
I promise to keep myself open to you, to let you see through the window of my world into my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams.
I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face changes in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting.
I promise to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give and all I feel inside the only way I know how.
Completely and forever.

2.     You are my once-in-a-lifetime, my miracle.
May our lives intermingle and our love grow as we become one.
You are all I could ever need in my life, my friend, my lover, my everything.
I promise to be faithful to you, to love you, honor you, live with you and cherish you,
according to the commandments of God, in the holy bond of marriage,
for as long as we both shall live.

I _____, choose you _____ as my best friend, my love for life. You are everything I need. I promise you my deepest love, my fullest devotion, my tenderest care, through the pressures of the present and the uncertainties of the future, I promise to be faithful to you. I promise to love you, to commit to you, and support you. I pledge to respect your unique talents and abilities, to lend you strength for all of your dreams.  From this day forward, you shall not walk alone. My heart will be your shelter and my arms will be your home. As I have given you my hand to hold, I give you my life to keep.  I will be yours, forever and always.  

Sample Traditional Wedding Vows:

1.     I, _____, take thee (or you), _____, for my lawful wedded (wife/husband), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.
 2.    I, ________, take thee (or you) ______, to be my wedded (wife/husband), and I promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be thy (or your) loving and faithful (wife/husband), in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live.

We have a wonderful selection of vows to choose from when you book with us.  Contact us now to start planning the wedding of your dreams!


Contact Pastors Bob and Barbara now for your vow renewal or wedding!